#MissingFatherFactor
According to the United States Census Bureau, 24 million children (one out of three) live in biological father-absent homes. Shocked? She's not...
The #MissingFatherFactor has such a great influence on our youth in such factors of economy, emotional and behavioral problems, maternal and child health, crime and incarceration, pregnancy and sexual activity, child abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, childhood obesity and education.
Who is at fault? When two consenting adults share those five minutes together where another soul is created in her womb, who is at fault? When she makes the decision to carry this precious soul it may or may not be communicated to her what his decision will be. She may go into the situation with his full support. They may get married. Something may happen during pregnancy to cause him to run off and never look back. Or maybe he made it clear as soon as she let him know of the pregnancy that he wanted no part of it, and she never saw him again. There are so many hypotheticals that apparently in one of three cases become reality. It's happened... Now what?
Now you have a fatherless child who is scarred for the rest of his/her life. Lets speak about her life. Despite how statistics often shed a melancholy, rejected, doleful light on those poor, poor little girls who have absent fathers, how about focusing on the more positive #lifeLessons she has learned. Yes, mistakes would be made along the way, just as any child would make, whether raised in a two-parent home or single-parent home. Of course she feels the pain, daily, of rejection, abandonment and renunciation. Of course she wonders if the outcome of her life would have been altered - more sophisticated, more successful and more captivating. Of course she wonders if her relationships would have been better maintained, solid, and auspicious. What really makes her who she is her turning all the negative into positives and her response to each #lifeLesson she endured to ultimately determine whether she bounces back, or remains in the valley.
As she deals with the #missingFatherFactor, she chooses to take what was never there, make notation of what she wouldn't like in her future, what would make her happy, learn how best to treat her 'him', and put to action the education she has obtained on maintaining a solid, Godly home and environment for her next generation.
"Judge not, lest ye be judged." - Here's the challenge to 'him' out there: Stop using the excuse that "she didn't grow up with a father, so she doesn't know how to treat a man". And the challenge to 'her' is to stop looking for the fatherly characteristics in him, expecting him to always take care of you and play the role of someone you never had. The fact of the matter is that the #missingFatherFactor should have been there, but he wasn't. Use that as your weapon against becoming like the other statistics of the fatherless. When in doubt, reach out to your Heavenly Father. Now that's one man who never left her side. He will never leave you nor forsake you - even though you treat Him like crap and only call Him when you want or need something. He never left your mother, either. Instead He made provisions for her on your behalf, for the betterment of you and your future. Like it or not, He knew what He was doing when He allowed the #missingFatherFactor to walk out the door and never return.
He already had a plan for her. He knew the mistakes she'd make, the promises she couldn't keep, and the humility of the #lifeLessons she withstood. There is hope in the fatherless. It remains sorrowful that the #missingFatherFactor didn't get to witness and see the fruits of His labor. (Him being her Heavenly Father, as He is the one who put in all the work.)
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